Long-Awaited Reads Month Update #1

Reading wise, January is off to a great start for me. I have not read this much in ages. Really, this past year I was lucky to make it through two books a month. But in January, the counter is now at six, including one which I started back in 2015. Even luckier, I have thoroughly enjoyed the books I have picked up thus far, even though not all of them have been as stunning as I had anticipated. Long-Awaited Reads Month, indeed:

Caddy's World Hilary McKayCaddy’s World by HIlary McKay

The Casson Family series deserves its own post really, but I know what I am usually like in these cases: I plan to write the post and then procrastinate endlessle. So instead, let me tell you why I love these books, this last book (because I do think this should be read last, though it is a prequel) included: the sense of family and comradeship despite difficulties, the acknowledgement of strains in family relationships but in a friendly manner, the book’s ability to acknowledge the good and bad in all people without judgement, the slight quirkiness of the whole Casson family, the utterly lovely characters which you grow to love throughout the series, and particularly Rose and Indigo, the attention paid to the different manners in which people engage with music and art as important forms of self-expression, and the general readability of course.

This one follows oldest-sister Caddy and her group of friends as they navigate confusing times in their lives. The focus is, of course, on Caddy who is trying to come to terms with the addition of Rose to the family. It is interesting to see how Caddy navigates the conflicted feelings about not wanting another baby in the house, but also being desparate for Rose to survive the complications stemming from her early birth. And this, of course, in the midst of her friends’ problems as well as the rearrangement of family dynamics at home. McKay does this wonderfully well, as always.

We Were LiarsWe Were Liars by E. Lockhart

We Were Liars is the latest book by E. Lockhart, the author who gave us the likes of the amazing  The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks and the  lovely Ruby Oliver books. In it, we follow the recent years of Cady Sinclair and her family, and particularly the times directly before and after ‘the accident’. As we follow Cady puzzling together the truth of what happened during one of her family’s summer stays in Martha’s Vineyard, we are introduced to the world of the Sinclairs, a rich white family, and ‘the liars’, a group of four cousins and friends of which Cady is one.

We Were Liarsranked high on many of my favourite bloggers best-of list a few years ago, and so I could not wait to read it myself. But perhaps it was the hype.. because even though I enjoyed the book and definitely found it engaging, it failed to convince me that it was stellar. Perhaps it was that I saw most of the twist coming about half-way through, but generally that does not bother me so much. Or perhaps it was that the characters felt rather flat at times, which meant that instead of allowing room for the reader’s deconstruction of the character’s circumstances and behaviours, the book felt more focussed on plot-progress. This is not to say that you should not read the book. It is still a very good book, and I definitely felt lots of feelings while reading. Perhaps it is just that I had expected more? Sometimes these kinds of books hold up better when you read them at the time of their release and the initial enthousiasm about them, than they do a year or so later.

Jem and the HologramsJem and the Holograms: Showtime by Kelly Thompson and Sophie Campbell

A graphic novel series about a girl band in the 80s, the protagonist of which is too shy to perform in front of an audience, so instead they use hologram “Jem” to be able to perform. While this story provides a lovely mix of music, friendship, love, and true human relationships between women instead of hollow stereotypical versions of it, plus “girly-girl” imagery mixed with serious issues without one undermining the other -and as such offers lots to love- I also did not feel as special a connection to it as I had anticipated. Perhaps it is the comic format? I notice that with both this one and Lumberjanes (which I personally enjoyed much more) I really love the story, the underlying ideas and messages, but I just cannot quite become as absorbed in them as I would in a regular fiction book? I don’t know.. this is a question I will have to puzzle out over time..

10 PM Question De GoldiThe 10 P.M. Question by Kate De Goldi

The 10 P.M. Question tells the story of 12-year-old Frankie and the monumentous changes brought to his life when he befriends the new girl at school, Sydney. While this book also explores a quircky family in which different persons have to address daily difficulties and strains, it’s tone is more serious than Hilary McKay’s. However, the books share the respectful tone at which personal and familial problems are addressed, nowhere reducing a problem or a person’s ability or inability to deal with it to a caricature. This, as well as its engaging characterisation and style, is what made De Goldi’s novel so particularly strong, for the subjects with which she deals are not small, eg. mental illness. And yet, the manner in which she addresses Frankie’s anxiety’s and his mom’s inability to leave the house, as well as the issues faced by other characters, simultaneously draw them out of the corner of mental illness which places it apart, but instead normalises it to a very realistic extinct. Additionally, there is something refreshing about reading a book about a boy’s self-doubt, when it is unfortunately so often only girl characters who are portrayed in this manner. I would definitely, then, recommend The 10 P.M. Question. It is utterly readable, enjoyable, and fun. To this is added the a humane and gentle understanding that is utterly admirable.

A Company of Swans IbbotsonA Company of Swans by Eva Ibbotson

This is typical Eva Ibbotson romance, but as always, it is good. Telling the story of Harriet Morton, who is raised by her father and aunt in a very protective, strict, and sober environment, but when given the chance runs away to follow her dream of performing in a ballet company while they tour the Amazon. While there are questions to pose about romantic interest Henry and his friendly colonial entrepeneurship versus that of his rivals, Ibbotson’s usual black-white portrayal of good vs. bad parents and innocent children, and the romantic imagery about the Amazon, I nonetheless enjoyed A Company of Swans immensely. Somehow, there is something about Ibbotson’s rose-coloured glasses that makes her books quite irresistable. Perhaps she leaves just enough room for realism and criticism to get away with it? I wonder.. Or perhaps it is simply that enjoying a work of fiction does not mean unapologetically condoning all of its portrayals? And yet, writing about Ibbotson’s romance novels always makes me wonder if she has a quality that allows us to jump a little too easily to the “oh, it was just lovely!” description instead of posing the more difficult questions, and if there is a danger in that. For it is true, I did wonder about some of the representations here, but mostly, I was too caught up in the fairytale to care.

I also, of course, read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, but since I have already written about that here, I won’t repeat my thoughts.

Meanwhile, I have begun to read Pomfret Towers by Angela Thirkell. This one is another that falls into the “comfort reads” category for me, having so much enjoyed her High Rising in 2014. Reading it seems to be taking a little more time than the rush I felt in the previous 2 weeks. But who knows, maybe I will get to pick out another book before January is over.

What have you been reading in January thus far? Any books that stood out to you in particular?

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

Look, I know you all already know what this book is about:

Kondo states that we people have too much clutter. We would be happier in a more minimalist and tidier home. Kondo introduces us to her decluttering KonMari method, which basically means: only keeping those items that you love, or that, in her words “spark joy”; to go through all of your items category by category to cull them; after which you you need to find a new allocated place for them. This, according to Kondo, will take you around 6 months. But after this process you will never need to declutter again.

There are tons of reviews out there, most of which will go into more detail about her method. In this post, I would simply like to discuss my reasons for reading, my plans, and my doubts.

I read the Dutch translation "Opgeruimd!" of Marie Kondo's book.

I read the Dutch translation “Opgeruimd!” of Marie Kondo’s book.

There were practical and emotional reasons for picking this book up. They combine into the feeling that yes, I own a lot of unnecessary stuff. And with the arrival of Pim, and the expected appearance of another little one in May, I often feel that the household is out of control and that if only I could have a better overview of everything we have, I might stand a better chance of keeping things in order. To me, contemplating the KonMari method is as much an exercise in wanting to regain a sense of control that I am sure any of us lose after the chaos of having young children, as it is about actually wanting to sort through my stuff, declutter, and clean.

Without reading Kondo’s book I went through my clothes during the summer. I made lots of progress  (as in, all of them fit into one cabinet of drawers aside from my dresses, underwear, and dressy clothes), but right now this part of the project is on a halt since a pregnant belly messes with my ability to judge which clothes I love or do not love enough to keep them. I am scared that would I sort through my clothes now, I would basically end up with 3 pieces of everything which means I would have to do lots of buying after my pregnancy and I just don’t want to risk that now. Also, I have no clue what size I will turn out after this pregnancy and I just want to have clothes on hand since I know that shopping time is limited in those first few months.

Yet, we do need to declutter the house for baby number 2, since she will require the room that we currently use for storage of books, music, Bas’ guitar, etcetera, which will all need to move to the storage space and room in the attic. And so, books are next on my list, as is all the small memorabilia stuff that we store in the attic but that I do not even want to think of sorting through yet because it will be so much work.

And so… books.

Can I just say that Kondo’s approach to book cannot be my own completely. She seems to think owning 100 books is a lot. I do not think my number will ever dwindle to somewhere near below 100. Part of me wishes I could more stringently adopt her overall approach to books, but things like (no exact quotes since I read the Dutch version) “if you have not read it yet, you will probably never read it” just cannot be put into action by me. It is true that I probably won’t read many of my unread books for some time yet, and yet, I cannot get rid of all of them. The thing is: I bought them for a reason, and if that reason still holds, and if the thought of that reasoning still brings me joy, I am keeping it. Though I admit that for now I am probably still hanging on to some overtly “maybe someday” books. And I am pretty sure I will have another round of book sorting before May.

My culling is compounded by the fact that Kondo’s philosophy seems to be that if you got rid of something you later on regret, you can always buy it anew. But this seems to presume easy access to everything. And that is not always the case for some of my “maybe” books still on the shelves. For example, I am keeping quite a chunk of books written by POC authors, because I know they are not all as readily accessible through the library system, or even bookstores, here.

And perhaps this tiny detail hints at some of the ponderings that have preoccupied me since back when I first began hearing about KonMari last year, particularly since her books seems to be part of a larger trend in which minimalism seems to winning ground on consumerism.

Because I have thoughts.. Though I admit they are not all that developed or organised yet.

You see, I am all for trying to live with fewer stuff. And being aware that we need not buy all and everything to be happy. This is the part of this trend that I really like and relate to. But there’s some voice that keeps nagging me about the luxury of being able to contemplate a more minimalist lifestyle at all. It is caught in Kondo’s assurance that we can always buy something anew if we really miss it after throwing it out, because what does it say that it is presented as a given that we can? But it is also caught in this idea of throwing away garbage bags of stuff. I do not want to do that unless I know that it will find a proper new home. So if I go through with this, I want to make sure I donate or recycle, make sure I don’t get rid of stuff for the getting-rid-of-it but instead learn to do with less as a rule (which I know Kondo articulates, but she nowhere acknowledges that maybe some people do not have the means to adopt her methods at all), and I want to make sure that I will make conscious choices about what I do buy in the future, hopefully sustainable choices as well.

Because I imagine there are drawbacks in the KonMari method on both a micro and a macro level. At the micro scale, and this is a very selfish one, I am going back and forth between wanting to declutter and wanting to live more frugal. The one does not disqualify the other, per se, but at times I wonder if there is not something to be said for holding on to those “maybe someday” items, if I might really have a use for it in a few years? The other one, the macro level one, relates to a more ideological level, and also the level of activism that part of me desperately craves. For what I am missing in Marie Kondo’s book, although I am not saying I blame her for it because it is not part of what she set out to do, is relating this trend of minimalism to larger issues in the world. For how, really, can we discuss a craving for decluttering and owning less stuff without discussing the system of consumerism, the worldwide inequality it creates, and the environmental impact it has? I know these might seem like random big words thrown out there, but to me they are intrinsically related, and someday I hope to find a book that will cast this all into this larger perspective.

That is not to say that I do not believe in Kondo’s assurance that decluttering can make you feel lighter, can create the space you need to get to those other things in your life that you really want to pay attention to, and that perhaps -perhaps- we need this stage to get to a place where we might address those larger issues, in our own way, if we want to. But I know that I want to.

Long-Awaited Reading for January

After Christmas, at least where I live, January and February offer cold and darkness without the joys of holidays to look forward to. As a remedy, Ana and I thought up the idea of a Long-Awaited Reads Month years ago. This year, we decided among the two of us to have another one in January – albeit a little late to turn this into a major event or to even announce it before now. But the idea was always simple, and so it shall remain:

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During January, we will be reading those books that we expect will bring us comfort and joy. Generally, these tend to be books that have lingered on our shelves or wishlist for a while. You know, the ones you tend to save for a special occasion when you could use a book to cheer you up, to make you think, to make you feel, or whatever you require from a book to bring you comfort ang joy (I know for me, the month’s reading usually consists of a mixture of those).

You are more than welcome to join us. Actually, we would very much appreciate the company! You can say hi using the LARM hashtag on twitter or instagram, write up a reading list, or just quietly join in: it is up to you.

So what will I be reading? Well, I have to admit that I do not have a definite plan yet. However, I started January with finishing the last of the Casson Family books I had not read (Caddy’s World), and now I am reading We Were Liars alongside The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up (New year’s resolutions and all that). After these, I will probably end up browsing my YA and fantasy shelves, as my go-to comfort books. But who knows, I might just end up picking up something like The Thousand Autumns of Jacob de Zoet.

Happy New Year

I will be back in the new year with plans, posts, perhaps a 2015 in retrospect, and hopefully much more reading. For now, however, I wanted to wish you all a happy new year. I hope 2016 brings all of you joy and hope and anything else you may wish for.

Happy News, Again!

It has been 19 months since I made a similar announcement about “Happy News“. And here I am repeating the sentiment: Bas and I are very happy that I am pregnant again and that Pim will become a brother, probably sometime during the end of May:

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This also explains why I have been absent and have done very little reading since August. Aside from the general business of having one baby and trying to combine that with a full-time PhD, I have been suffering from nauseousness since September. This pregnancy, while still easy up to now, has been very different from when I was pregnant with Pim. Back then, I rarely felt nauseous and this time around I hardly functioned for the first 12 weeks. Luckily, I have had little complaints aside from that, and I feel rather wonderful right now (though admittedly a little bit more tired and more easily irritated — another difference: hormones are having much more effect this time around).

I am both incredibly happy and a tiny bit scared about having another child. We worry that it will be crazily busy, and I am sure it will be, but we are also very much looking forward to adding another member to our family.

More soon, but I just wanted to let you know since I have been struggling to keep quiet for quite some time now. (Also, just in case: facebook does not know yet, for those who are friends with me on there: please refrain from mentioning it on there a little while longer).